When a Romantic Relationship Turns Ugly

When a Romantic Relationship Turns Ugly

When a Romantic Relationship Turns Ugly

Love is the central focus of a romantic relationship but the relationship can often turn sour and ugly when partners experience negative emotions. Many obstacles hinder a relationship from becoming successful such as being unfaithful, lack of communication and the inability to compromise. All these components can potentially hurt a relationship, however, from my personal experience jealousy (a combination of hurt, anger and fear) is one of the most dangerous threats that can ultimately end a relationship. The lyrics in “Everything I’m not” by the Veronicas depict that romantic partners hold negative emotions towards one another when they are involved in an unhealthy relationship. The key components that identify the instability of the relationship mentioned in this song are jealousy, social comparison and infidelity. Jealousy, generally considered a negative aspect in interpersonal relationships, can eventually be led by possessing an insecure attachment style.
“Everything I’m not” boldly starts off with the Veronicas echoing the words of the guy, “‘Oh no don’t go changing’, that’s what you told me from the start.” The Veronicas explore on the fact that the relationship ended because of the man.   The lyrics, “Cause the girl that you want, she was tearing us apart. Cause she’s everything, everything I’m not,” looks at social comparison because she compares herself to the other woman’s beauty and intelligence. This explores further on the phenomenon that romantic love is an attachment process since it is a process by which affectionate bonds are formed between adult lovers just as affectionate bonds are formed earlier in life between human infants and their parents.
Romantic relationships are most commonly initiated with passionate affection. Otherwise, partners in a romantic relationship experience serious issues. According to Rob Pearce, “Attachment systems, especially the secure type, remain robust throughout the...